I offer my view as a therapist who specializes in navigating complicated family dynamics, which is a potential area that “toxic” relationships often play out. I believe there is a pearl of wisdom to the “Let Them Theory.” We spend far too much time and energy trying to change the people around us, often unsuccessfully, and ultimately suffer more frustration, disappointment, and conflict.

When people find out I’m a sex therapist, after they stop giggling, the first question I’m usually asked is some flavor of “what is your best advice for having great sex?” Oftentimes, people are expecting something salacious about novel sex positions, or ways to have a better orgasm, but my advice is more straightforward and rooted in the research.

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